"... Until death do us part," many of us will find this wedding vow very familiar if we've gone to any wedding ceremonies. Although many people are serenaded with the word, forever, when whispered in their ears, I shake it off my shoulders. It's not that I do not believe in love, but I am reluctant to believe in a forever that is written on a piece of paper. To spend the rest of one's life with his or her beloved, sounds so simple and sweet, but "one life one love" only happens in fairytales. I have observed the people around me for a very long time, and I find marriage is a joke. There are countless of divorces in our society today. Whoever invented the idea of marriage must be insane, because marriage is a contract. What is the purpose of signing a promise to validate the love when it is not going to last anyway? If two people do not get married but are willing to love each other dearly for the rest of their lives, you have to agree with me that this option is far better than having a broken marriage.
We often see or at least are willing to believe and picture marriage as an extended honeymoon with candlelit dinners and romantic European trips. However, marriage in reality is learning how to let go of some personal old habits and making room to accept new compromises with the spouse. It is true that marriage is about listening to one another and letting go of immature obstinacy, because sometimes it is essential to swallow one's pride. Instead of investing time and putting earnest effort after getting married, a lot of people think marriage will work on its own after getting married. But they are very wrong. Marriages or relationships do not and will never work on their own, unless both people are willing to work out and sort with each other.
If ultimately, marriage is going to let people feel that they can take for granted of one another, then why bother getting married? The effects of marriage would just ruin two people's lives. I believe that one does not need marriage to prove his or her love as a bona-fide. Having faith, cherishing and treasuring one another are the essential keys to keep a relationship appreciated and strengthened. Marriage is just a vanity.
I am totally agree with some of your points.Indeed, promise is an oral contract and marriage is a fomality to prove or secure a promise in an extent.I think it's really hard for one spends his/ her whole life loving a same person.That's not realistic. However, it doesn't mean this kind of love does not exist.Most of the time, the reason that we don't beleve in "forever love" is that we cannot love one that long, so we tend to believe others cannot do that.But this generalization is totally wrong. Our own thohgts limit us and make us think love or marriage should be what it should be. Also, i dot't think marriage is a vanity. It's a necessary way to announce two's relationship in public. And it's a way to show respect to each other. Still, i think promise is not that important for a couple if they really love each other. True love does not build on thousands sweet promises, but rely on the understanding and trust between each other.I think this is the truth about love and a long-lasting marriage.
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